If you’ve been trying to get a handle on your anger, you’ve likely read tips for calming down like taking a deep breath and counting to ten.
My guest today argues while those tactics might serve as band-aid in the short term, truly getting control of your anger has to begin long before you have a blow up. His name is David Lieberman. He holds a Ph.D in psychology and is the author of several books, including his latest, Never Get Angry Again. We begin our discussion talking about what happens in our minds and body when we get angry, the ill effects anger can have on our health and relationships, and why common anger management advice isn’t very effective. David then digs into the deeper root causes of most anger issues and walks us through what you can do to address and solve them.
- Why do we get angry?
- Do men tend to have more anger issues than women?
- The 4 common ways anger manifests itself
- What passive aggressiveness is so damaging
- Can anger be useful?
- What happens in our brain when we get angry
- The physiological downsides of being angry
- Standard anger management advice, and why it doesn’t usually work
- The role ego plays in our anger
- Moving past negative experiences and traumas from childhood
- How do you get better at enforcing boundaries without being a jerk?
- Why you need to be okay with people not liking you
- How to inoculate yourself from angry emotions
Resources/People/Articles Mentioned in Podcast
- The 7 Habits: Think Win/Win
- Why Insults Sting and How to Handle Them
- How to Stop Being a Nice Guy
- Anger Mismanagement
- Quit Being a Pushover: How to Be Assertive
- 5 Ancient Stoic Practices for Modern Life
- Is Forgiveness Manly?
- The Virtuous Life: Tranquility
- How to Not Let Anger and Criticism Get the Best of You
- How to Firmly Say No Without Coming Off Like a Jerk
- Mastering Mindset to Improve Health, Happiness, and Longevity
- Reticular Activating System
- David’s website
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